http://heikeberenscoach.com A Transformational Life Coach Mon, 14 May 2012 08:46:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.com/ http://heikeberenscoach.com/2012/05/13/acceptance-and-surrender/#comment-321 Mon, 14 May 2012 08:46:39 +0000 http://heikeberenscoach.com/?p=73#comment-321 Thank you for this post. This paragraph you shared resounded so deeply in me:
“I will never be pregnant, never be protected by the father of my child, never be loved as the mother of his child, never love like you love, and never be loved as you’re loved. I will never mean as much to anyone as you do.”
More so because the closest thing I got to having a child of my own was a miscarriage 2 years ago. I do have a loving goddaughter whom I treat like my own child and I generally get along well with my stepsons. But every Mother’s Day for the past 4 years since I married their Dad, they will say something to the effect of “she’s not our mother, we refuse to celebrate with her”.
I know that they are stating a fact but it still hurts. I take consolation in my goddaughter’s and my husband’s love. But it was wonderful to read your post today. I will strive for the courage to surrender and accept. Thanks again.

]]> http://heikeberenscoach.com/2012/05/13/acceptance-and-surrender/#comment-320 Mon, 14 May 2012 08:46:07 +0000 http://heikeberenscoach.com/?p=73#comment-320 Thank you for this post. This paragraph you shared resounded so deeply in me:
“I will never be pregnant, never be protected by the father of my child, never be loved as the mother of his child, never love like you love, and never be loved as you’re loved. I will never mean as much to anyone as you do.”
More so because the closest thing I got to having a child of my own was a miscarriage 2 years ago. I do have a loving goddaughter whom I treat like my own child and I generally get along well with my stepsons. But every Mother’s Day for the past 4 years since I married their Dad, they will say something to the effect of “she’s not our mother, we refuse to celebrate with her”.
I know that they are stating a fact but it still hurts. I take consolation in my goddaughter’s and my husband’s love. But it was wonderful to read your post today. I will strive for the courage to surrender and accept. Thanks again.

]]> http://heikeberenscoach.com/2012/05/13/acceptance-and-surrender/#comment-319 Mon, 14 May 2012 04:29:29 +0000 http://heikeberenscoach.com/?p=73#comment-319 What a great post. I had a situation recently where I was really struggling with a stepkid’s behaviour and feeling quite hard done by and resentful. Some lovely friends of mine gave me such great support that I came out feeling that while my stepkid may not appreciate me, I have a heap of people in my life who do love and appreciate me. It instantly turned it around for me. When caught up in the intensity of what’s going wrong, we can fail to see what’s going right. I like to remind myself to focus on the love, rather than the problems, in life.

]]> http://heikeberenscoach.com/2012/05/13/acceptance-and-surrender/#comment-318 Mon, 14 May 2012 01:31:07 +0000 http://heikeberenscoach.com/?p=73#comment-318 Wow… this is something I struggle with being a full time step mum… the kids barely see their mother but she gets all the credit… I have been at a point in my journey that I sometimes get alot of resentment… to the children, to the ex, to the whole situation… I really need to change my attitude and be thankful for what I have, and not what I don’t have…

]]> http://heikeberenscoach.com/2012/05/13/acceptance-and-surrender/#comment-317 Sun, 13 May 2012 10:08:47 +0000 http://heikeberenscoach.com/?p=73#comment-317 Really like your post today Heike, thank you. It was a wonderful reminder of the personal power & peace that can be found in the act of simple Acceptance and Surrender….. And what a great gift we receive to activate the courage that we are called upon to exercise. With love and gratitude Marie-Noelle

]]> http://heikeberenscoach.com/2012/01/23/2012-a-transformational-year/#comment-304 Tue, 24 Jan 2012 08:05:41 +0000 http://heikeberenscoach.com/?p=51#comment-304 Just started to follow your blog, it is inspiring !!

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