Well, here we are the first month of the new year nearly gone, most New Year resolutions already forgotten – thank goodness for Chinese New Year, so we can try it all again!
Asking friends and family about their resolutions and reflecting on my own, one thing becomes clear: we all tend to have the same New Year resolutions year after year after year…
One of these days I will lose those last kilos, be really fit, get my career on track, have a better relationship with my partner and family…
This year, we say, everything is going to change… and then all is forgotten come February or March…
Being a therapist and coach myself I cannot believe that I’m in the same place every year. After all I studied it all, I should know better! Or so the story goes… But I’m only human and so I forget what is in my “toolbox” at times…
According to the Chinese Horoscope 2012 is the year of the Water Dragon – a year that stands for transformational life changes, a good year for self-improvement – 2012 holds much promise…
Sounds like my year! This year I am ready for change! Are you?
I am reading and practising Debbie Ford’s “The 21 Day Consciousness Cleanse” (again).
What a great process to clean out the “cobwebs” i.e. toxic thoughts, destructive behaviours, old patterns and all that no longer serves me. Cleansed and humbled I can then be truly present to what is, and more to the point who I am being and step into my next phase of evolution and see who I want to be in the future.
Debbie says: “When we are hungry for something to make us feel good about ourselves and we refuse to take care of our inner needs, we do stupid things.”
We all know those “stupid things” – these are those old patterns that make us break the New Year (and any other) resolutions time and time again.
It is from a place of healing that we can make better decisions, decisions that will inspire us and empower us.
I don’t know about you, but I already feel the excitement of 2012 filling my heart and soul.
And what if we could remove those old patterns for good? I know from my own experience how much courage it takes to dive into the unknown, and to face the hidden pains we need to confront to reconnect with our heart and our soul.
What helps me with this process is asking myself some hard questions at times and journal about them, something like:
Am I ready for change? What could prevent me from creating this change I desire? And can I be ok with the occasional relapse? And how would I get back on track? Being prepared for those situations helps to move through them so much quicker.
One of my all time favourite books, that is a fixture on my bedside table is “The right questions” by Debbie Ford. It is a guide, you can always draw on – one of those “tools” that always gets you back on track.
A coach supports and guides you on your journey, bringing about the shift you desire – one of the best gifts you can give yourself. I wouldn’t want to miss my sessions with my coach for anything in the world.
Most of all reach out to someone, talk about what moves you, be part of a community. It is in the connectedness to others that we find healing and joy.
Just started to follow your blog, it is inspiring !!